Perfect marriages

"There is no perfect marriage and there never will be one - neither is it necessary to be so. All the fun will be lost if marriage is always sedate and predictable."

Very true.

Supporting the above view point is Khalil Gibran, a poet and philosopher. In his book , "The Prophet" , there is a beautiful chapter on marriage. This is an extract from that chapter :

" .... Let there be spaces in your togetherness
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you
Love one another, but make not a bond of love
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous but let each of you be alone
Even as the strings of a lute are alone they quiver with the same music
Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping
For only the hand of life can contain your hearts
And stand together yet not too near together
For the pillars of the temple stand apart
And the oak tree and cypress grow not in each other's shadow "

I get spellbound every time I read this bit of work. Every line subtly states the truth. Though i have always enjoyed the passage, i have always found it difficult to follow. But I am still working on it. "Never give up" is my middle name !!! :-)

Here is another perspective on marriage that I found in one of the Reader's Digest issues....

"Never criticize your spouse's faults; if it weren't for them, your mate might have found someone better than you"

;-)

Now, which is easier Khalil Gibran or idolizing and appreciating your (spouse + faults)package !!!!